Three Ways to Really Get Your Husband's Attention

Getting his attention was once an easy thing to do. In the early days of your marriage, you seemed to have it all the time. There were even times when you secretly wished you could have a little less of it. Lately, however, things have changed and he seems more content to work in the garage, absorb himself in video games, or assume his position as king of the Lazy-boy with remote in hand than to pay attention to you. What went wrong? And, what can you do to get his attention all over again? 

The good news for you, is that all relationships have their ups and downs. It's a normal cycle. The better news, is that it's not beyond your control to take the upper hand and make sure you have his attention now, and any other time when other issues seem to be horning in on your time with your husband. 

1) Feed him. Debi Gutierrez is a very funny comedian who understands the male psyche pretty well. She believes there are only two things you can do to really get his attention and make him happy. Feeding him is one of those things. It doesn't take much imagination to come up with the other. The thing is, it isn't all about whether or not you offer him food. It's about the kind of food you offer him. Men are lusty creatures. It shows in their appetite for you as well as their appetite for food. You can't feed him the things that leave you feeling deprived for dinner and expect him to be happy with the results. Give him real food made for his appetites and see what a difference it makes in the attention he pays you. 

2) Compliment him. Pay him a compliment. Tell him how much the little things he does really mean to you. Let him know that you appreciate the way he takes care of you and your family. Tell him how much he means to you. Women are often credited with being the sentimental ones in relationships. You often forget that men need to hear these words of affirmation and appreciation just as much as you need to hear them. Not only does this set an amazing example for him to follow but it also lets him know how you really feel about the things he does for you and for your marriage. 

3) Make yourself available to him. While we do not live in the day and age of wives submitting to their husbands in the literal sense, there is still something that touches a man above and beyond all else for you to make the first move. For you to be the one offering him what he wants from you. Make the first move. If it doesn't get his attention at first, make your offer a little bolder. Most men do not need to be asked twice though. 

Getting his attention is the easy part. Keeping it, despite all the distractions that impact relationships today is where the road gets a little rockier. Remember these tips whenever his attention starts to stray again and you're sure to keep your marriage on the right path now and down the road.

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Signs Your Husband is Cheating

No woman wants to believer her husband is cheating on her. However, most women really do know when it's happening. Whether you can admit it to yourself or not, it's almost always best to know what's going on so you can make informed decisions about what has to happen next. These are a few of the signs you should be on the lookout for that indicate your husband really may be stepping out on you. 

He Becomes Mr. Critical 

If your normally docile and easy-going husband has recently turned into Mr. Critical, it's often his way of dealing with the guilt or his affair and/or comparing you to the other woman. Many men look for faults in you in order to justify the affair and soothe their consciences over cheating.  

He Begins Spending More Time Away from Home 

If your husband has suddenly started working extra hours, joined a gym without the sweaty results, or taken a sudden interest in a previously unmentioned hobby that keeps him away from home several nights a week, it could be a sign that he's spending that time with someone else. 

He Goes "Off the Grid" Sometimes 

We live in a day and age of constant connectivity. Between mobile phones, computers, and other technological wonders, no one is ever out of touch for long. They especially aren't out of touch with any degree of regularity. If he's going off grid on a regular basis, then it's likely intentional rather than accidental and that can be a sign of real trouble for your relationship. 

His Sexual Preferences Change 

Sometimes this presents itself in a sexual drought at home. Other times it presents as more frequent sex than ever before. It's almost as if he's trying to make up for his indiscretion by behaving even more lovingly at home. However, it almost always results in changing preferences and evolving interests in the bedroom. 

He Brings Up a Specific Other Woman in Conversation Often 

If he's talking about another woman a great deal it's because she's on his mind. That, in and of itself, is cause for concern -- but not necessarily alarm. In many cases, he's thinking about an affair when he's talking about her. When he suddenly stops talking about her is when you should be alarmed. 

Knowing what's going on his mind is half the battle. It is possible to stop an affair before it gets started or becomes too serious if you are aware of the signals and make a concerted effort to stop things before they really heat up.

Four Great ways to Get Your Girl's Attention

Not too long ago, there was a series of commercials, by a mobile phone provider oddly enough, about mobile phone "really?" moments. The premise of the commercial was that this new phone could get you in, out, and back to real life faster than the other phones on the market. The commercial made a great point however. We humans seem to have a hard time getting each other's attention these days. Even in loving relationships, getting your girl's attention can be, difficult. However, these four tips will get you her undivided attention if you go about them the right way. 

1) Get Her Away from the Crowd 

If there is constantly a group of people or an audience around, it's difficult to get through the clutter of other opinions, other advice, and other recommendations. Now is a great time to plan a weekend out of town for the two of you so that you can reconnect with one another without an audience hanging on your every word.

2) Plan an Electronic Free Weekend 

This includes all electronic devices (mobile phones, tablets, laptops, televisions, video game systems, iPods, the whole shebang) if you want it to be effective. The idea is that you'll be forced to rely on each other for communication, companionship, and attention. Play games together, talk to each other, and reconnect in a way you haven't managed in quite a while. You'll be surprised by what a difference going two days without all the distractions can do for your relationship. 

3) Send her Flowers - For No Reason 

You better believe this will get her attention. She's definitely going to want to know what's going on, what's happened, and what you're attempting to apologize for. It will drive her mad with curiosity and have her hanging on your every word until she feels she's gotten to the bottom of things. 

4) Clean the House 

After she picks her jaw up off the floor or wakes up from passing out, she'll be dying to know what's going on, who's coming over, and whether or not you've become a Stepford husband. If house cleaning is something you just can't handle or she does such a great job that it never needs extra help, consider completing some other project she's been asking/nagging you to do for a while now. Just finishing it will be a gift to both of you at this point and will certainly get her attention. 

You don't have to move heaven and earth to make a favorable impression with the girl you love. Little steps can make a big difference in your relationship and ensure that you have her undivided attention now and help you keep it in the future.

 

 

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How Can I Make Her Love Me Again?

Believe it or not, most women don’t leave their men because they’ve stopped loving them. They don’t pull away because you’re not attractive to her anymore. Most of the time, it’s not usually anything you’ve done that’s pushed her away. Believe it or not, there’s an old country song that has it right – for the most part. It’s not what you did. It’s all those things you didn’t do. 

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying it’s all your fault! 

I’m a firm believer that it takes two to tango. She never spoke up and told you what she needed from you. But, really, how often do you tell her what you need her to do for you? 

While the song may be a few decades old by now, there is wisdom in those old lyrics. If you’re trying to make your relationship work and put a little bit of the love back in it, then you need to remember all the things he forgot. 

Tell Her You Love Her 

Don’t take it for granted that she knows. Tell her. Show her. Shout it out from the rooftops, but make sure she knows, without a doubt, that you only have eyes for her. 

Listen to What She has to Say 

This one is hard. Men and women often live in different worlds when it comes to language. She starts talking and sometimes your eyes just glaze over with this faraway look. She notices this and it hurts. You’re going to have to really listen, like the man in the Klondike commercial. It will impress her and make her feel like she really is important to you. 

Make Time for Her 

But don’t make her feel like it’s a sacrifice. You really should want to do things together once in a great while. Weekly date nights are a small thing, but when done right, they can mean so much for the romance and love in your relationship. It’s one night a week that lets her know she’s still the woman you love.  

Let Her Know She Still Rocks Your World 

Tell her how beautiful she is. No matter how many times she dismisses it, she secretly loves to hear you say it. She wants to know that she still turns you on and that you’re not turning to her because she’s available. She wants to know that your fires are still burning bright for her just as much as you want to know that she still digs you too. 

You don’t have to go to charm school. You don’t have to step outside of your league, get a second job, or lose 100 pounds to get her to love you again. All you really need to do is let her know that you’re still the man she fell for so long ago.

 

 

Why Are You Trying so Hard to Get Your Ex Back?

The one thing most people feel immediately after an unexpected, and unwanted, breakup, is desperation to get your ex back. It's a common denominator that most people experience. You're hurting. The breakup caused the pain. Ergo, getting back together with your ex will end the pain.

Right?

Not so fast!

Before you start pulling out maps and drawing up battle lines, it's a good idea to take a moment to really consider whether getting your ex back is the right move to make in this situation. It may be your kneejerk reaction, but that doesn't mean it's the best action to take. Here are a few questions you should ask yourself before you start making plans.

Why do You Want to Get Your Ex Back?

It's a completely and totally fair question to ask yourself. It's not about love. At least, it shouldn't be. Loving someone alone is not worth moving heaven and earth in order to get your ex back. You might believe you're soul mates, but why do you feel that way? What is it about your ex that makes this the one person you're meant to share your life with and that no other person will do?

Do You Know what You Really Want?

Have you thought about it before now? You may have been making plans for a future together, but could those plans change and create a happier future for you? Is the future you've been planning one that fills you with excitement? Is your ex the one person that fills you with excitement? Or, have you been so busy planning your life as part of a "we" that you've forgotten to make plans for the "me" in the equation? It's not a given that your ex isn't the one and that you aren't meant to be together. But, you owe it to yourself to take enough time to figure out the future you want before you begin to make plans to get your ex back.

Are You Really Good Together?

The final question to ask yourself is the simplest, and often the most difficult. Are you good together? Do you bring out the best or the worst in each other? Is the world better when you're together or did you secretly long for those moments when your ex was busy doing other things?

The questions aren't difficult, but the answers can make or break your plans to get your ex back. If, after answering these hard-hitting questions, you're sure your ex is the one and you want him back, then there's only one thing left to do: "Make it so." I can give you the tools you need to get your ex back. You just have to be willing to put them into action at the right time and place.

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Trying to Get Your Ex Back

It's not easy to be on the outside looking in at what used to be your path to happily ever after. Being unceremoniously dumped without anyone asking your permission, not only hurts, but it also makes your entire world feel as though it's spiraling out of control. Your solution to the problem is simple.

You have decided to get your ex back. You've thrown all your heart, soul, and energy into the coffers and, yet, you're still not seeing a satisfactory return on your investment. If anything, the cold shoulder your ex has been giving you just keeps getting shoulder. What's going wrong in your efforts to win your ex back? Perhaps, it's one of these common, but fixable, hiccups.

You're Trying Too Hard

You want results and you feel that this is worth an all-out effort on your part. Unfortunately, what your ex needs right now is a little bit of emotional distance from the situation. Sometimes absence really is all it takes to make the heart grow fonder. You just have to give the absence the opportunity to happen. Step back. Scale things down completely and let your ex get a taste of what life is really like without you in it.

Making all the Wrong Moves

At least, that's what it feels like is going on. Every move you make feels like it's pushing your ex further and further away. The thing is, it's not the moves you're making that are the problems. It's the fact that you're making them. Stand down. Give your ex a chance to breathe a little. Use this time wisely to come up with a plan of action designed to get your ex's attention in a really positive way when the timing is right.

Moving a Little Too Fast

This is quite common. Your heart is telling you to get in there and "Nip it in the bud!" You don't want to hear any more of this breakup talk. You want to end it all, right now and get on to the infinitely more enjoyable making up talk. There's a reason Barney didn't get a loaded gun and that he was only given ONE bullet. Your heart means well but it doesn't always steer you in the right direction.

If none of these things work to get your ex back, then what will? It takes a well-planned and executed attack to win your ex back after a breakup. You must spend some serious time planning your strategy and paying attention to the little details. More importantly, it takes knowing what to do next. A second chance is just that -- a chance. If you want to make it work, a second time around then you need a little magic on your side. I can help with that!

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Stop Comparing Your Romance to those On the Big Screen

There are many reasons why your romance will never measure up to those on the big screen. If you're constantly comparing your relationship, then you'll never be satisfied and both of you will end up being hurt in the long run. You might be curious about why it's such a bad thing to compare your relationship to those "picture perfect" relationships in Hollywood. Here are a few good reasons why your relationship will never measure up to theirs and why that's a good thing. 

Hollywood Films have Professional Script Writers 

More importantly, these scriptwriters spend hours agonizing over the right words and sequence of events to create a plausible conversation. And they have control of all sides of the conversation. In real world relationships, you only get control of what comes out of your own mouth and that's tenuous at best in the heat of the moment.  

You Don't get to Start the Scene Over When it Doesn't Play Out Right 

The more heated the discussion becomes, the less control you seem to have over the words coming out of your mouth. That doesn't happen in Hollywood. The director just cuts the scene and takes a break when things aren't flowing the right way. You don't get an opportunity to "un-ring" bells in real life. Once it's come out of your mouth, it's there. In all its glory and for the one person who means the most in the world to hear. 

The Actors Put their Characters to Bed, Alone, Each Night 

After a long day of practice, script reading, and careful staging or choreography, the actors leave their characters behind and return to their own lives. That's not a luxury you have when you're comparing your relationship to those on the Silver Screen. You're comparing something real -- your own relationship -- to something that's made believe and temporary at best.  

Actors in the movies don't have to decide who pulls the midnight shift for diaper duty. They don't have to fight over who washes dishes or even who gets control of the remote control for the evening or any of the other petty worries that cause discontentment in modern relationships.  

At the end of the day, everything in Hollywood is the work of an entire team of people working towards one common goal. Hair is always picture perfect; makeup is just right, music, mood lighting, and script in place to produce a little magic on the screen. These things, while enchanting in pictures, fall flat and just shy of satisfying in real life. In the end, you'd grow tired of the façade and run off in search of the real deal or relationship gold. That's why it's better to skip out on the perfect front Hollywood presents and go for something a little heartier in your own relationships instead.